Celebrating My Son's Life
Updated: Jun 25, 2019
1 John 4:16 And we have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him, and he in God.
June 23, 2015 was the "official day" Ian left to live in heaven with the Lord - four years ago. The day prior, June 22, 2019, a few family members along with a dear friend went with me to the Fox Island cometary to place his ashes and stone. It took me four years to get enough courage to go through the process of ordering his stone.
These past four years have been so precious even though they have been difficult. Loss isn't easy even with the promise of eternal life. Because we (I) miss our loved ones. As believers in Jesus Christ we have a great promise that we will live together for eternity. Yet, it is the here and now which can be hard if our focus is on the past. We must press forward and press on despite the pain.
My friend Owen, Ian's father, told me that every time I find a penny it's Ian saying hi. I'm amazed at the number of pennies I find. They makes me smile as I think of all the craziness of Ian: His adventurous spirit, his mischievousness, and sweet sweet smile that brightened any room.
Benjamin, a friend, was such a blessing as he came to the cemetery to pray and support me. He anointed the stone, spoke over Ian's life, and blew the shofar. It was so glorious as tears and laughter filled my heart and also the hearts of the few family members who were present.
Ben read, Ephesians 6:23-24, "Peace be to the brethren, and love with faith, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. Grace be with all those who love our Lord Jesus Christ with a love incorruptible."
The Lord's love is "incorruptible". Because of the faith in Jesus Christ we have the promise of peace and love over us and our loved ones. Nothing can take that gift away from us and it is free to all those who believe. Grief is real - yet, the celebration of life eternally is also real and as I focus on the tremendous gift of Ian, I marvel that God trusted me to raise such a beautiful soul. But, I also am pressed (challenged in my spirit) to do a great job while I am still here on Earth by embracing and loving life. God does give "beauty for ashes" as we move forward in love (Ish. 61:3).
Jesus as well and you and I get to bring the good news to the afflicted. We can bind up the brokenhearted and proclaim liberty to the captives and freedom to prisoner; to proclaim the favorable year of the Lord, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn, to grant those who mourn in Zion, giving them a garland instead of ashes the oil of gladness instead of morning, the mantle of praise instead of a spirit of fainting so they will be called oaks of righteousness. The planting of the Lord, that he may be glorified (Ish. 61:1-3).
I feel so honored by my mom, sister (Doretta), nephew (Derik) and friend (Benjamin), who came to help me place his stone. It was important for me to finish this process as one might put a capstone on a building. It was monumental!!! Many family and friends couldn't come or even didn't know about it, but it is finished. Ian's spirit is with the Lord. He is alive with Christ. We celebrate you - Ian. I love you!